Is everyone angry and certain, while you are just tired?
Is your job being handed to an AI bot that never gets tired, and now you have to reapply for your role again?
Does the career you built your life around still make any sense to you?
Do you feel as if the people closest to you don't care about what is going on with you?
Have you stopped saying anything back, because what is the point when nobody listens?
If you find yourself nodding at any one of these, call me.
It's four in the morning and you have been awake since two, doing the house finances again. Last month you reapplied for your own job. You trained the tool that is now taking it. There is no good way to make sense of that.
Someone asks how you are and you say fine, because the real answer would take an hour.
What frightens you is not the money. It is that you cannot find the version of you who was there before all this kicked off.
He was. And you do not have to work this out on your own.
Part of your role is now done by something that does not get tired. You may have been asked to help train it. Nobody in the business is going to say out loud what that means for you.
The money is the first problem. The second one arrives later, usually at night, and it is about who you were when you had the job.
Nothing is wrong, exactly. That is the difficult part. You did the things you were told would work, and they have not turned out to mean what you were promised.
This is not career coaching. I am not going to rewrite your CV or teach you to interview. This is therapy, with someone who spent twenty-seven years inside the industry that is currently disappearing and then trained in psychosynthesis on the other side of it. You will not have to explain what an org restructure feels like, or what it is to reapply for your existing role, or what it is to be the oldest person in the room.
About meNo commitment and no pressure. A free first fifteen minute conversation, to work out whether I am the right person for this.
Book a conversationOur Time Is Now is a private psychotherapy practice in Little Chalfont, Buckinghamshire, three minutes on foot from Chalfont and Latimer station on the Metropolitan line and a few minutes by car from Amersham and Chorleywood. I work with men going through redundancy, job loss, technology burnout, mobile technology and screen overwhelm, midlife change, and the particular anxiety that comes with watching artificial intelligence arrive in your industry.
Most of the men I see have spent years being capable and useful and busy. When that gets interrupted, by a restructure or a redundancy or simply a growing sense that something no longer fits, it is disorienting in a way that is difficult to admit to anyone. My approach draws on psychosynthesis, an integrative model that takes all of who you are seriously, not only the part that is struggling.
I see clients in person in Little Chalfont in a calm, private room with free parking, and online across the UK. If you are looking for a therapist near Amersham, Chorleywood, Chesham, Rickmansworth or Gerrards Cross who understands what is happening to work, I would welcome a conversation.